“Love takes off masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within.”
I often wonder when I hear or read the words “the thrill of dating” is there still, really such a thing? There seems to be a false narrative and facade that is extended when we are identifying what we expect when dating someone. The “thrill” should be in building a spiritual framework to have a more personal and meaningful connection with the person. That way we focus on the individual and leave behind shallow criterions and unreceptive outlooks. When you shift your perception and leave behind biased opinions and rules of dating, you will attract quality instead of quantity.
“You can’t have relationships with other people until you give birth to yourself.”
We all must love ourselves first, find forgiveness, let go of emotional baggage and leave our comfort zone. Men and women alike have all survived toxic relationships, been victims of things that have hurt, bad decisions, lived with regrets, resentment and broken hearts. Whether it is a fight with loneliness or the desire to settle down or a call to ease away pain, your joy will only be abundantly more when it’s achieved as a result of working towards becoming the person you want to attract.
Strive to empower and strive for greatness! Dating someone new will not heal or mend an old wound. Take an active role to rediscover and understand you. Nurture and evolve with happiness, gratitude and purpose. Now that you know what you don’t want and no longer need in your life, you won’t be dating for the sake of dating or settling for someone just to fill a void.
“Sometimes it’s not enough to know what things mean,
sometimes you have to know what things don’t mean.”
How we perceive a person should be loved verses knowing how a person wants to be loved is a constant overlook and practically a discourteous assumption. There are multitudes of people who are looking for love and to be loved without fully grasping what Love is. Victor Hugo once said “You can give without loving, but you can never love without giving. The great acts of love are done by those who are habitually performing small acts of kindness.” Love is also a language, it tells of expansion and freshness of the mind, of inspiration and probability. Love has five universal methods but hundreds of combinations that all people express and translate as love.
According to relationship author Dr. Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages of love are;
- Words of Affirmation
- Quality Time
- Receiving Gifts
- Acts of Service
- Physical Touch
I will leave it you, the reader to recognize and interpret what the love languages mean to you.
“It is not what you hear, it is where you listen from within yourself that gives meaning to the message.”
Online dating is the new normal for casual interactions, to conceivable solid relationships and even marriage. However, a heart and mind must be mentally and emotionally fit to withstand any healthy dynamic partnership down the road. Unwrap those layers but stay focused and true to who you are. Do not allow social media platforms to dictate who you should have in your life. No comparisons. You are a Beautiful you. Remain unique and open-minded to the person that brings out the positive in you. What you reveal is true real-life by doing the work to produce an extraordinary and better you. Good vibes radiate and shine. That’s love and light coming into your life. #nofilter